For some people, their pain and hurt are so deep inside of them that their ability to forgive is buried under layers of anger and resentment. If this description fits you, you will need to search outside of yourself for the strength to forgive. Again, you need to understand that forgiveness is something you can rarely accomplish immediately. You’ve lived with your pain for many years; allow yourself the time you need to work through your need to forgive.
Your eating disorder is a response to your pain and anger. If you can understand what happened, get past the anger, and forgive the pain, the reason for your behavior will no longer exist. When the reason no longer exists, and the health-related complications of your behavior are addressed, true healing becomes a reality.
Getting past your roadblocks to forgiveness, and learning to practice proactive forgiveness, are critical components to your healing journey. Below are seven joys of to keep in mind when working towards forgiveness:
- Forgiveness allows you to reclaim your personal happiness and find release from bondage to debilitating emotions.
- Forgiveness allows you to reclaim intimacy in your relationships by giving you closure over the painful ones so you can truly enjoy the healing ones.
- Forgiveness allows you to seek out appropriate forms of comfort.
- Forgiveness allows you to truly throw out those harmful emotions instead of storing and recycling them.
- Forgiveness allows you to refresh your mind by improving your self-esteem and realizing the awesome ability to forgive that lies within you.
- Forgiveness allows you the freedom to seek your true potential unencumbered by your eating disorder.
- Forgiveness allows you to amplify your strengths and gifts over your weaknesses.
Make a decision to decide to forgive. Do this not because you want to, not because it feels good, and not because it’s deserved, but because it is the healing thing for you to do. A conscious choice on your part to forgive can counteract your conscious decision to continue in the behaviors of your eating disorder or disordered eating. Your will is the same, but you are choosing to use it in a healthy, uplifting way.
Make the decision to invest in the rest of your life. Please call one of our caring, licensed depression treatment specialist now at 1-888-771-5166 / 425-771-5166. It is a free, confidential call where you can get all of your questions answered and discuss what an individualized treatment program might look like for you.